Eyona ndlela yokujongana nokuphoxeka kwabantu abakuphoxileyo

Sonke sifumana ukungaphumeleli ngaxa lithile ebomini bethu. Yintoni onokuyenza ukuze ujongane nabantu abakuphoxayo? Uqhubana njani nabahlobo abakuphoxayo? Indlela osabela ngayo kubantu abakuphoxayo ibaluleke kakhulu. Oku kugqiba indlela olujonga ngayo ulwalamano nokukwazi kwakho ukwakha ubuhlobo. Sonke siyadingana. Yiyo loo nto kufuneka ufunde ukuncokola xa abahlobo bakho bekuphoxa.

Kwenzeka ntoni xa uphoxekile

Kuba buhlungu xa abahlobo bakho bekuphoxa ngenxa yezizathu ezahlukahlukeneyo. Ukuqonda ukuba kutheni uziva uphoxekile sisitshixo sokuzihlaziya kunye nokuqhubela phambili. Zintathu izizathu zokuba uzive uvise ubuhlungu ngabantu abakuphoxayo.

Ulindelo olungafezekiswanga

Usenokuziva ukhathazekile, udanile, okanye udimazekile ngenxa yokuba izinto ozilindeleyo zingafezekiswa. Oku kwenzeka xa useta oko kulindelekileyo kwabanye, kodwa abakafikeleli kulindelo lwakho.

Kusenokwenzeka ukuba abakwazi kuzizalisekisa okanye abakwenzanga oko bekucelwe ukuba bakwenze. Abahlobo abangakuxhasiyo, umzekelo.

Oku kunokwenziwa ngokuboleka imali kubahlobo okanye kusapho. Okulindelekileyo kukuba iya kubuyiselwa kwixesha elithile; Nangona kunjalo, umntu unokungafezekisi oku kulindelekileyo kwaye angangayibuyiseli imali yakho.

Isenokudanisa kwaye idanise xa umntu engafikeleli kulindelo olubekiweyo noluchaziweyo.

Oku kungenxa yomahluko phakathi koko kwakuthenjisiwe noko kwenzeka ngokwenene. Ubucinga ukuba kukho into eza kwenzeka kanti akuzange kwenzeke.

Ulindelo lokwenene

Kungenxa yokuba abahlobo bakho bakuphoxa. Unolindelo olungekho ngqiqweni Ulindelo olungekho ngqiqweni lunokubangela ukuphoxeka. Noko ke, kwezinye iimeko, oko sikulindeleyo kwabanye akuyonyaniso.

Unokulindela ukuba abahlobo bakho bafikeleleke iiyure ezingama-24 ngosuku. Unokuba nethemba lokuba umntwana wakho akenzi mess. Akunakwenzeka ukuba nabani na ayenze kwaye inokukhokelela ekuphoxekeni.

Ngaphambi kokuba ubeke ulindelo emntwini, zibuze ukuba kusengqiqweni na kuwe. Ngaba inokwenzeka kwabanye abantu?

Unxibelelwano olulambathayo okanye ukunqongophala kwalo

Isizathu sesithathu sokuziva uphoxekile kukungakwazi ukuthetha ngezinto ozilindeleyo.

Umzekelo kuxa uxelela iqabane lakho ukuba lingakuthengi nto, nokuba uyifuna ngokwenene. Lo ngumzekelo wokunganxibelelani kakuhle, apho ungabonakalisi iimvakalelo zakho zokwenyani kunye neminqweno.

Kubalulekile ukuba nezakhono zonxibelelwano ukuba ufuna ukuphepha ukuphoxeka. Kubalulekile ukuba ukwazi ukunxibelelana neemfuno zakho kunye nezinto ozifunayo ngendlela abanye abantu abanokuqonda ngayo. Obu buchule bubalulekile kulo naluphi na ulwalamano okanye unxibelelwano onalo nabanye abantu.

Amanyathelo amahlanu omawulandele xa abanye bekuphoxa

Ngoku uyazi ukuba kutheni uziva uphoxekile, lixesha lokuba uthathe amanyathelo okuqhubela phambili. Nantsi into ekufuneka uyenzile.

1. Zivume iimvakalelo zakho

Ayingombono ulungileyo ukuphoxeka imvakalelo esebenzayo. Sonke siya kuyifumana ngexesha elinye okanye elinye. Nokuba ayingomsebenzi wakho wamaphupha okanye ubudlelwane obungaphumeleliyo. Kuya kubakho amaxesha apho ungayifumani into obuyilindele ebomini.

Nokuba siyintoni na isizathu, kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuba akunamsebenzi Yamkele into yokuba uziva kakubi. Musa ukuzama ukufihla iimvakalelo okanye iimvakalelo zakho. kufuneka ube nguwe Jongana neemvakalelo zakho Ukusombulula ingxaki eyabadalayo.

2. Fumana isizathu sokuphoxeka kwakho

Inyathelo elilandelayo kukufumanisa ukuba kutheni uziva uphoxekile. Unokuwubona njani unobangela wokuphoxeka kwakho? Yintoni ingcambu yeemvakalelo zakho?

Unokuba nenjongo malunga nemeko. Okona kulungileyo kukuba uye waqhubana nazo zonke iimvakalelo zakho ukuze ube nokuyibona kakuhle imeko. Zinike ixesha lokuva iimvakalelo zakho ngaphambi kokuba ungene kwingcambu yesizathu. Uya kukwazi ukuyisingatha kakuhle le meko ukuba umhlobo akakho.

3. Thetha ngeemvakalelo zakho xa uziva uphoxwa ngabanye ngeyona ndlela ifanelekileyo

Le yindlela yokubonisa ukungoneliseki kwakho ngexesha lomsitho. Qinisekisa ukuba ucacile kunxibelelwano lwakho kwaye uchaze ngokucacileyo indlela oziva ngayo. Kufuneka ukwazi ukuqonda ukuba uziva njani kwaye kutheni.

Le yindlela elungileyo yokudlulisa umyalezo wakho: cwangcisa izivakalisi zakho ngolu hlobo lulandelayo:

"Xa wenza _____, kwandenza ndizive ngathi _____"

Ukwenza umntu azive kakubi ngabom asiyonto ifunwa ngumntu. Ngokubaxelela indlela izenzo zabo ezizichaphazela ngayo iimvakalelo zakho, unokubakhuthaza ukuba benze utshintsho olungasayi kukukhubekisa.

Emva kokwabelana ngeemvakalelo zakho, nika omnye umntu ithuba lokuthatha oko ukuthethileyo, kodwa kwakhona ukwabelana ngeengcinga kunye neemvakalelo zabo. Ngale ndlela ninokusebenza kunye kwaye niqhubele phambili ngokufanelekileyo.

4. Kwixesha elizayo, misela okulindelekileyo kunye nemida

Ngoku ukuba uyayiqonda imvelaphi kunye nonobangela wokuphoxeka kwakho, seta izinto ozilindeleyo kunye nemida ukuze ungaphinde ube nakho kwakhona. Usenokuba nolindelo lwakho okanye olwabanye.

Unokusebenzisana noogxa bakho ukuseka umhla wokugqibela kunye nenkqubo nganye ukuba oogxa bakho kufuneka banike ulwazi. Ukuba unenkxalabo yezemali, unokugqiba ekubeni ungaboleki mntu imali okanye unciphise ukuboleka kwakho.

Gcina ulindelo lwakho luyinyani kwaye uvule utshintsho.

5. Xolela;

Okokugqibela, akukho sizathu sokubamba inzondo xa abantu bekuphoxa. Ukusilela kwakho kwangaphambili akufuneki kusetyenziswe ngokuchasene nawe ngonaphakade. Kwelinye icala, kufuneka uvumele abanye ukuba baxolelwe kwaye bajike kulwaphulo-mthetho oludlulileyo.

Unako ukuxolela abanye kwaye uqhubeke.

Ngaba uphelelwe ngabahlobo?

Kunokuba nzima ukujamelana nokuphoxeka kwabahlobo abakuphoxileyo. Khumbula ukuba aba bahlobo ngabona basesichengeni ngokweemvakalelo kwaye ngabo ubathembileyo. Yiyo loo nto kunokuba buhlungu ngakumbi xa abahlobo bakho bekuphoxa baze bakuvise ubuhlungu ngandlel’ ithile.

Kwezi meko, kubaluleke ngakumbi ukuthetha ngeemvakalelo zakho ukuze uqhubele phambili. Awufuni ukuyeka ubuhlobo ngenxa yento ekusenokwenzeka ukuba ibingajoliswanga.

Xa umhlobo wakho ekulahla, qiniseka ukuba ulandela amanyathelo afanayo nangaphambili.

Ezi ngcebiso ziya kukunceda ujongane nabantu abangekhoyo kuwe

Musa ukuvumela ukuphoxeka kukuyekise ukwakha ubuhlobo nabanye. Ukuze sibe yinxalenye yoluntu olukhulu, senziwe. Kufuneka nje wenze umgudu wokugcina ubudlelwane obuhle.

Kufuneka ufunde ukunxibelelana neemfuno zakho. Ukuba azihlangabezwanga, sebenzisa izixhobo ezinikiweyo ukusombulula xa umhlobo wakho ekuphoxa kwaye wenze imida ecacileyo kunye nolindelo.

Bhalisa ukuze ufunde ukuba ungayitshintsha njani indlela ocinga ngayo malunga nemali kwaye uyeke ukuvumela abahlobo bakho behle Fumana iphakheji yethu yasimahla, engoyiswayo "Yokwakha iSiseko esiSomeleleyo". Bhalisela i-Clever Girls Know podcast kwaye uhlale usendleleni ngeenjongo zakho Umjelo weYouTube!